Mother’s Day 2016 will be the “first” for many. For one friend, it is the first Mother’s Day since the passing of her beloved mom. For another friend, it is her first Mother’s Day as a grandmother. For me, it is my first Mother’s Day as a mother-in-law. Whether this is your first Mother’s Day or your 50th Mother’s Day, the flowers, brunches, or cards give us occasion to reflect on the roles of mothers.
Another friend in Northern California concluded that being a mother meant “holding tight and then letting go.” She shared her experiences of holding her daughter close by and protecting her as a toddler and then letting go when her daughter entered pre-school. Another of her examples was running behind a small two-wheeler, holding tightly onto the seat, while her daughter was learning to ride a bicycle and then letting go of the seat as her daughter peddled wobbly away. Finally, most of us have experienced the supervision, vigilance, and monitoring required of the teenage years, and then the letting go when your son/daughter goes away to college.
Every mother holds on tightly and then lets go, over and over. And although she let us go, what she taught us shapes us forever. This was the theme of Keiro’s Women’s Wellness Conference of 2012, Lessons My Mother Taught Me: Empowering Women for Lifelong Vitality. At the conference we learned that women are the primary transmitters of cultural beliefs and practices in families. As mothers and daughters experience happiness, conflict, and peace with each other, we define women’s roles, manage autonomy-independence issues, and help each other with practical tasks.
The women (and men) who attended that conference and their friends and family members helped us create a personal and collective legacy for our community by submitting a recipe, remembrance, and photo of their mothers that were compiled in the keepsake e-book, Recipes My Mother Taught Me: A Collective Legacy of Recipes and Remembrances. Through these recipes our mothers gave us more than a meal; they gave us our family histories and lessons by which we live our lives.
On this Mother’s Day 2016, please revisit this lovely recipe book, as we hold tightly to our memories and lessons learned, and let ourselves go to be free to look forward to the adventures that lie ahead.
For additional information, resources, and presentations from past conferences to support women, please visit our website.
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About the Author:
Dianne Kujubu Belli is the Chief Administrative Officer of Keiro. Dianne staysgenki by doing cardio and light weight training four days a week at the gym and dances Argentine tango.
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